in life there are things that we couldn't erase..something that we couldn't forget..but we're trying so hard to forget about it..and stop thinking about it..
memories..things that happen in the past..and often we couldn't disengaged ourself from it.. because past and future links together...

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life is like economics. economy goes through good times and bad times. because everyone of us participating in the economy,we all need an understanding of the causes and consequences. we as the participants should know what is happening around us..

i saw baby bird on the road today...

as i walk alone from college to my house this evening..i didn't feel tired at all even though the journey take almost 20mins..the weather is so nice and it is not that hot like usual..maybe God knows i am going to walk back tis evening..thanks God!
do you know what happen today? today i go to college alone.. my other friend is not coming..but fortunately..my other friends from other student house join me..yay!i got friends.
another thing is..i like my journey today..i enjoy my walks because i ca think! and guess what.. i saw baby bird on the road chirping loudly as i walk by under a big tree.. i guess the baby bird is learning to fly but fall from the nest. at first i want to leave it alone but suddenly the mama bird fly above my head..i think mama bird thought that i was going to harm her baby. well,she stopped me. so i go back to baby bird and take it on my palm..she's small..owh..how should i know its a baby girl or baby boy? baby bird is sooo cute!
so i take baby bird and put it on the road side..at least the baby bird is not on the road. if not for sure the drivers wont see baby bird who helplessly still couldn't fly. i guess baby bird is terribly confused and afraid right now.

i think mama bird could take care of her baby. i really hope so. i tried to find their nest but i couldn't see it. maybe it is high up on the tree.. if i saw it,maybe i could climb the tree but when i see the looks from the people at the neighborhood..i don't want them to be suspicious about me. especially a girl who climb a tree. of coz i wouldn't let it happen. so i left the baby bird under the tree and continue my walks.

hrm,this incident reminds me of my mom. i don.t know why. maybe because it happens that i saw mama bird and her baby.. baby bird is helplessly still finding its way to fly its wings while mama bird is worried baby bird will be stuck down on the road. anytime the wild cats could catch her baby and eat it alive!!
owh God! i hope God will take care of the baby bird..

well,here i am in my room writing for the new entry. today my story is about baby bird and mama bird. i think my mom would be in the same situation like mama bird if something happen to me. she must be worried. that is why i myself have to take care of my self especially we were miles apart.. and i do hope mum will not worried about me much as i will take care of my self. beside i am learning to be an independent person...:)
well i think that is the end of my story today..until next time.daaa~~^^

under construction..

i am re-doing my blog for now..i revert it to classic template for a while..i want to upgrade it but seems to be no particular nice template for my blog rite now..
this one is ok for now..simple.. and its pink!! omG!!i didn't know pink had soft spot on me..last time i do like pink but pink wud be my third or 4th choice but today it become my first!!wahaha...
new things for me..LOL..

p/s its black now...huu~

Five Main Causes Of Stress..reading..

most of us lived in a stressed life..sometime we didnt know why we feel upset quickly and often snap at people..especially if we're tired.. and often it makes us feel sad..here are some research about stress...
for me,if we know the core problem,it will be easir to solve..thus we could have a free stress life..have more enjoyable day and become happier person.. 
this is what i got from my reading..:

Stress is the reason for two thirds of the total visits to the Physician. It is also the leading cause of the coronary artery diseases, cancer, accidents and respiratory diseases besides some others.

Stress aggravates following illnesses: Hypertension, insomnia, diabetes, herpes, multiple sclerosis, etc. Besides, stress that continues for long periods of time can lead to: poor concentration, irritability, anger, and poor judgment.

Stress leads to marriage breakups, family fights, road rage, suicides and violence.

What are the biggest causes of present day stress, and how do these lead to such high levels of tension?

From the studies conducted by Holmes and Rahe, and also other studies that have been conducted from time to time, it seems that following are the biggest causes of present day stress levels in modern societies:

1. Financial Problems – This is the number one source of stress these days. You and your family are not be able to do what you want to due to lack of money. Debts are piling up. Credit Card payments, pending mortgage installments, rising costs of education, mounting expenditure on health concerns. Financial matters top the list of stressors.
2. Workplace Stress –You may be worried about your next promotion. You might be facing the negative or bullying behavior of your boss. You might not be reaching your well-deserved career goals; you might be worried due to office politics. You might be stressed about some major change that is taking place in the organization, or, you might be under stress because of the prospect of losing your job.
3. Personal Relationships – Studies of children, attitude of relatives, arguments with spouse or children, change of place due to requirements of your job, illness of a family member, moving in of parents or moving out of elder children are all main causes of stress.
4. Health – Heart diseases, hypertension, problems with eye sight and sugar afflict many people becoming a major cause of life stress for them. Maintaining good health, reducing weight, increasing weight, being able to lead a healthy life-style: all of these and a few more are the main causes of stress due to health concerns.
5. Irritants –annoyances and irritations that you encounter in your daily lives which go on to become biggest sources of stress for you. Problems in commuting to workplace, balance of work and family life, PTMs at children’s schools, workload, visit to doctor, not enough sleep, no time to relax, no time to discuss some nagging problems – who is not aware of these stresses and strains of our lives? You fight with them every day.

so.. Develop resilience and never let stress get you down.
and yes,there are actually lots of way that we could do to avoid from a stressed life..we should savour the day..no stress lead to a better living..^^

GrOWinG uP..^^

~ If growing up is the process of creating ideas and dreams about what life should be, then maturity is letting go again. ~ 

   Mary Beth Danielson 

One of my biggest fear as i grow up is growing up... so many things had changed..my self, people around me, changing events, surprises, and i guess..yes...life is a mystery for i don't know about the future and what lies ahead..

i still remember,when i was still in primary school..i want to grow up faster..because i don't like people who is years older than me telling me things, showing that they know better than me..and acting like they know everything and i know nothing..

at that time, i was so mad at those people..for me it is unfair..i'm being discriminated because of my age..heyy..i am young but doesn't mean i know nothing..doesn't mean i don't have anything to say, doesn't mean i don't have my own thoughts..sometimes i thought that my opinion is not that bad after all...why don't people appreciate my opinion? sometimes young people's give new idea n a fresher perspective about things happen around them!

scolding me will not make things better, it will just worsen it more..there is one time that i want to tell them to SHUT UP and LISTEN!i have my own thoughts and i want u to know!

FORTUNATELY..my parents did tells me things i don't know..millions thanks to them for explaining things to me..they share a lot of story with me..I LOVE STORY! what a wonderful life i had back then..i still remember before going to bed,my father used to tell me bed time story..MANJA?me?? no la..hhe.. i just like to hear story thats all..what story?well my father like to tell me lots of animal story..back then..they become my fantasy..He told me about the story of birds,grasshopper,monkey,lion,snake,frog,tortoise and a lot more..each of them have their own characters..the bad and the good,hero and enemies..my dad used to put values in his story..

for me..mY DAD is the greatest story teller ever in my life..

through his story, i learned many moral values..and he always stress his points which is RESPECT YOUR PARENTS,and always be good to others..his story shape my value and characters..

other than story about animals,my dad used to tell me about my ancestor..the surprisings story which most of my siblings didn't knows..as he tell me those story, i learned to respect my culture and my ancestor..i learned where i belong...

my DAD is my hero..=)

as for my mom,she's good at giving advices and lots of them are based on her own life story..my Mom knows me best..she knows i am easy to feel sorry and empathy..i am PROUD of my mother..she had a good heart and i love her so much!

my mom is pretty,but as i grow up,she's growing old toO..same goes to my dad..when he was young,he was handsome in his pictures..and there are times when i look at my dad..when he sit at our living rooms,reading newspaper, or doing some chores..i will say to my mom.."Mom..when i grow up and ready to have relationship..i want to have a boyfriend like dad"..my mom will laugh..and my father will stay silent..showing no response..hha! but dad...i know behind the newspaper, you was smiling..:)

i do a lot of mistakes..and i admit that..i am a stubborn child when i was young..my parents always get angry because of me..punishment come and i will cry and cry till my face got swollen..hhe!what a day!

but every time, after they punish me, they will come to me and tell me why they punish me,and why what i've done is wrong.. they make me understand..and because of that everytime i make mistake and they punish me..i wont get angry because i understand it is my fault..

i RESPECT them for that..through understanding i know better and learn better..

during my secondary school..i think that it was the toughest time in my life..like people owez said..teenager are experiencing identity conflict.. my teenage time is the journey of searching of who i am..untill today i am still searching for who i am..

sometimes it is hard especially when it comes to study and my social life..'friends'.. i make new friends..they come and go..changing from one place to another..facing new experience and obstacles, possibility and success and also failure..i am a human being and i accept that..world is full of uncertainty and i know that i have to go through everything with open heart and mind.. sometimes my heart wants to rebel and wants to break free from all the confusion i felt..

but I AM GLAD for i've found my SAVIOUR..Christ Jesus! i am saved and i have a new life! my life changed!Thanks GOD!

many things had happened in my life..and i am sure that same goes to everyone.. today..my mom calls me..i am so happy..i miss her so much..

and today she told me that my eldest bro wants to get married at the end of this year!waaah!! i'am glad..but what comes to my mind scared me..

i'm getting older!!yess thats the truth..i am growing up! when i look back at those years i've gone through..waa..so many things had happened in my life..but still...my future are still waiting for me..and again..i still need to move on and just experience this life...

after all..growing up is not bad at all..its just the numbers of years i've lived.. i just have to live this life and just move on..life is a journey..full of changing events and uncertainty..  i've learned that as long as i LIVED with my GOD i don't have to be afraid of anything...For God will sustained me..i will run to the ends and keep my faith in HIM..=) 

more reading..Who move my cheese?

"Life is no straight and easy corridor along which we travel free and unhampered, but a maze of passages, through which we must seek our way, lost and confused, now and again checked in a blind alley.

But always if we have faith God will open a door for us not perhaps one that we ourselves would ever have thought of but one that will ultimately prove good for us"

                                                                                                                                       A.J Cronin

i read this book four years ago,and didn't mind if i read it again and again. perhaps change is the hardest things to do.yet its the one which we always need and always happen in our life...like it or not..

sometime i thought that,after i read i could have some inspiration to change..for the better..yes of course..isn't that is the reason we like to reads inspirational books?so that we could learn something and try to adapt them in our life? but we always forgot one fundamental thing..which is..to take action... 

we read..and we keep them in our mind..but we didn't take action..

what Ken Blanchard,San Diego, California said about this book:

"Who Moved My Cheese? " is a story about change that takes place in a Maze where four amusing characters look for "Cheese" -- cheese being a metaphor for what we want to have in life, whether it is a job, a relationship, money, a big house, freedom, health, recognition, spiritual peace, or even an activity like jogging or golf.Each of us has our own idea of what Cheese is, and we pursue it because we believe it makes us happy. If we get it, we often become attached to it. And if we lose it, or it's taken away, it can be traumatic.The "Maze" in the story represents where you spend time looking for what you want. It can be the organization you work in, the community you live in, or the relationships you have in your life.

The Handwriting On The Wall

Change happens

They keep moving the cheese

Anticipate change

Get ready for the cheese to move

Monitor change

Smell the cheese often so you know when it is getting old

Adapt to change quickly

The quicker you let go of old cheese, the sooner you can enjoy new cheese

Change

Move with the cheese

Enjoy change

Savior the adventure and enjoy the taste of new cheese!

Be ready to change quickly and enjoy it again

They keep moving the cheese

Move With the Cheese and enjoy it!

The end… or is it a new beginning?

The Story of WHO MOVED MY CHEESE?

Having Cheese Makes You Happy

The More Important Your Cheese Is To You The More You Want To Hold Onto It

If You Do Not Change, You Can Become Extinct

What would you do if you weren't afraid?

Smell Your Cheese Often So You Know When It Is Getting Old

Movement In A New Direction Helps You Find A New Cheese.

When You Move Beyond You Fear, You Feel Free

Imagining Myself Enjoying The Cheese,Even Before I Find It, Lead Me To It

The quick you let go of old cheese,the sooner you find new cheese

It Is Safer To Search In The Maze Than Remain In A Cheese less Station

Old Beliefs Do Not Lead You To The New Cheese

When You See That You Can Find New Cheese,You Change Course

Noticing Small Change Early Helps Adapt To Bigger Change That Are To Come

p/s: Enjoy reading the book..^^